
Awakening Worth in Childless Women
You are about to discover how to embrace your life as a childless woman who wanted to have a family and never could. This is where we combine mindset shifting tools with practical tips so you can break free of outdated societal norms that condition us all to believe that women without kids don’t measure up to the moms.
This is where we take action on processing grief and accelerating the healing journey so you can feel free. When childless women awaken their self-worth, they transform from hopeless and inadequate to worthy, accepting and purposeful.
Think of this podcast as your weekly dose of lightbulb moments that will shift your perspective as a childless woman - about yourself and your innate power to change yourself, your future and even the world we live in. If that’s what you want, then start listening!
Awakening Worth in Childless Women
140: It's Not Grief That's Keeping You Stuck
This is something most childless women don't realize, and it's the thing that is keeping them stuck.
The grief you feel as a childless woman is real, but there’s something much bigger at play.
So many childless women I talk to tell me they feel stuck. They think it's grief. But they're wrong. I'm going to tell you why and the key to becoming unstuck.
The truth is, there are silent forces that have affected the way you view yourself, and they are the culprit. They are constantly running in the background, telling you that you are not worthy if you're not a mother.
In this episode, I'll give you 5 signs that these forces are at play in your life, and give you the key to getting on the path to freedom.
I call it the Unbecoming Blueprint, and the women who go through it feel lighter, more self-assured, and FREE.
If you want to know more about the Unbecoming Blueprint, click HERE to join the waitlist for the Women of Worth program
Where to find Sheri:
Instagram: @sherijohnsoncoaching
Website: sherijohnson.ca
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Sheri Johnson: What if I told you that the grief that you're feeling isn't just about not having children? But it's actually about or encompasses something much bigger.
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Sheri Johnson: I was chatting with a client not too long ago, and I remember this so clearly, she said.
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Sheri Johnson: But as we dug deeper she realized that what was actually keeping her stuck in what she thought was grief
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Sheri Johnson: wasn't actually the grief of not having a child.
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Sheri Johnson: It was the feeling that she wasn't worthy without one.
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Sheri Johnson: I want you to know.
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Sheri Johnson: That statement might have felt confronting
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Sheri Johnson: but there's also something deeper at play that most women don't realize.
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Sheri Johnson: And today we're going to talk about that thing. Why so many childless women feel stuck?
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Sheri Johnson: Why, it might not actually be grief that's holding you back.
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Sheri Johnson: So if that sounds interesting to you, stay tuned.
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Sheri Johnson: welcome back to the awakening birth podcast I am really excited to share
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Sheri Johnson: this is the stuff. We're not talking about enough in the childless space. It's this, it's this is stuff that
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Sheri Johnson: and I don't know why we're not talking about it more because it actually impacts us. Yeah, sure, there is grief.
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Sheri Johnson: You might be feeling grief, not being able to live out the the dream that you imagined.
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Sheri Johnson: But I am going to guarantee that there is so much more at play. This is why
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Sheri Johnson: So let me tell you my story about how I kind of came across this myself.
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Sheri Johnson: and I was trying to articulate something that I felt something that I couldn't quite put my finger on. I was telling her that when I was contemplating giving up on fertility treatments and just living, you know, trying to live a happy, childless life.
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Sheri Johnson: and childless women are often left out of that equation. And in fact, we're often the ones paying for children's education. These tax breaks, the things that parents get to take advantage of.
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Sheri Johnson: So here's some signs for you that maybe you have picked up some beliefs like this that you're feeling this internalized messaging
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Sheri Johnson: Maybe you, this is number 2. Maybe you second guess your worth, and where you fit in. If I'm not a mother, where where do I fit in in the world.
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Sheri Johnson: Jd. Vance confirmed this when he said that a childless woman doesn't have any stake in America.
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Sheri Johnson: I don't even live in America. But that's the kind of thing that we hear our opinions, our second
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Sheri Johnson: And if you believe that, then you're going to stifle your voice. You're not going to share your opinion with your friends who are talking about something that they're struggling with about parenting.
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Sheri Johnson: Okay, so let's talk about why this feels like grief. But it's not grief.
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Sheri Johnson: something else that you might feel that you're thinking is, grief is self-doubt and unworthiness. So questioning your value
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Sheri Johnson: That messaging is out there. This is something we have to grow around. You need to grow around your grief, or you need to live with it, when what you actually need is to just unlearn the these messages, these beliefs that have made you feel unworthy in the 1st place.
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Sheri Johnson: So I use the unbecoming blueprint inside of my program to do this. And this is what that is, it's the process of stripping away the conditioning that made you believe that your worth was tied to motherhood.
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Sheri Johnson: This blueprint, this unbecoming unlearning. It's about recognizing that you are already enough without needing to prove it. And again, that's something that we can intellectualize. We can, we can consciously think, yes, I'm worthy. Yes, I am enough. Yes, I have confidence. I'm worthy. I like.
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Sheri Johnson: if you have them, or that you have nieces and nephews, or that you're a dog, mom. All these are all forms of co-opting ourselves into motherhood and nurturing.
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Sheri Johnson: What else happens when you go through this unbecoming blueprint?
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Sheri Johnson: if you're no longer sad, because if you are worried that people will think
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Sheri Johnson: even if you do have an exciting life
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Sheri Johnson: The women who go through this process feel lighter, they feel more self-assured, and they feel free.
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Sheri Johnson: And that's what we do inside of the women of worth.
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Sheri Johnson: Maybe you've even worked through some of the grief, or what you thought was grief, or what was grief. But you still have this lingering other stuff.
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Sheri Johnson: what she was feeling separate grief from all of the other emotions and things that she was feeling, and that's when she was able to unwind. Oh, this is where that came from, and this is what I can do
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Sheri Johnson: And now she's she's on the path. She's still with me. She's in the program now, so she's on the path to creating a life that she loves. She's letting go
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Sheri Johnson: Here's what to do next.
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Sheri Johnson: and I will send you some information I'll send you. We'll start a chat. We can message on email.
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Sheri Johnson: We'll chat about where you are in your journey, whether this is the right thing for you, and and then we can chat, live if you want to. But the the 1st step is to send me an email at sherry at Sherryjohnsonca sherry at Sherryjohnsonca. That's in the show notes. So the spelling is SHER. I,
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Sheri Johnson: and send me an email. All you need to do is type in the word worthy.
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Sheri Johnson: and we'll get started.
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Sheri Johnson: Okay, that is it for today.
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Sheri Johnson: Come back next week for another episode, and we'll go from there. Thanks. So much for listening. If you found value in this, if this
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Sheri Johnson: give it a gold star, whatever platform you're on. Give me a review.
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Sheri Johnson: and I would so appreciate that because that is what's going to help other childless women to hear this information and know that they are not alone on this journey.
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Sheri Johnson: Okay, that's it for today, bye, for now